How to Treat Women to Get Laid


This meme is the perfect example of the marriage between media representations and real life. It’s a chicken and the egg problem: which came first? You might assume that real life came first. You think that media and movies only put what’s already happening in the spotlight. But is that really true?

Memes like this simplify and perpetuate characterizations of masculinity as models for real life behavior. By simplifying behavior and drawing conclusions based on subjective correlations, this meme communicates to men that there is a double standard that does not necessarily exist: men have to treat women well, but if they want to have sex, they have to treat women like shit. Is that really true? No, not really. It is a generalization of one person’s interpretation. But because this meme gives recognizable evidence, the correlation appears to be causation and it reinforces this false belief in our subconscious minds.

The internet is full of this shit! There are entire sites devoted to spreading it around! Reddit, Tumblr, Twitter, and probably much more I don’t know about. I see them every day on Facebook.

The idea is to garner recognition and therefore appreciation. People see something they recognize from their personal experiences or their belief system and it reinforces that experience or belief, even if it has taken something tiny completely out of context. Thus, culture is formed and perpetuated, over and over again.

Which came first, media representations or real life? Well at one point, media started as a representation of real life, but now, media is more of a filter for the parts of real life that we readily recognize and understand, based entirely on the media we saw yesterday which filtered the real life we understood based on the media we saw the day before.

Think about it. Next time you see a meme, stop and wonder how it’s affecting your perception and understanding of real life.


5 responses to “How to Treat Women to Get Laid

  1. This comment doesn’t really have anything to do with the article itself, but the meme it uses as an example. This idea of treat a girl like shit=get laid and treat her well=less sex has always driven me crazy.

    Yes, Ted treats women well and doesn’t have as much sex as Barney, who treats women like shit. HOWEVER, they can’t really be compared because their motivations and goals are completely different. Barney’s goal is to have sex, and he tricks women into thinking he’s great in the short term so that he can hit it and quit it. Ted’s goal isn’t to have sex, it’s to have a relationship. It’s totally different. Just saying.

  2. best I can figure out – this all has a good deal more to do with hormones than memes – there does come a time in life when ‘getting laid’ is no longer the end game. thanks for the interesting post.

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  4. Reblogged this on Iconography ♠ Incomplete and commented:

    I think in truth we are in a didactic display show that Ted Mosby is better than Barny Stinton because his heart and ambitions are always in the right place in coordination with himself; he is not afraid to pursue things and the women that he loves. But Barney is actually still a kid in this respect because he someone thinks girls and women still has cooties thus his approach is almost like an action hero’s monologue before going into Defcon 4 operation. Barney is afraid of many things; he avoids many things even with his friends but then he falls in love but its difficult for him to understand how he can be with this person. In the end Barney gets laid all the time but he’s always feeling isolated and lonely but Ted seems pretty mentally and physically well-off despite his numerous heartbreaks.

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